We often see what we are looking for, in fact, I would say that it is very hard to NOT see what you are looking for, it is what I call the Mazda Miata effect. I rarely saw Miata’s on the road when I did not own one, but the minute I purchased one, they seemed to pop up all over the landscape. It is not like Mazda suddenly imported a glut of Miata’s to fill the landscape, they were always there, I just did not see them.
It is not uncommon for people to learn behaviours during their childhood that do not serve them well as they get older. The tantrum that got you what you wanted at 2 is not really all that appropriate in the office at 22. However, not all the behaviours are so easy to see, but they can be just as detrimental to your health and well being. Let's talk a bit about it from a personal point of view.